WHEN A CRISIS HITS LEARN NOT TO PANICK

I know it is very difficult not to panic, especially when your child is in danger and emotions are involved.
But it does not help anybody if you get freaky when trouble passes your way.
First off your child does not to see you react negatively, that will only get them more upset. Your children take cue from you on how to respond to things. If your little ones scrapes his/her knee and you go running over and make a big fuss over it, they will over react with you.
If you don't focus on it and ignore it for the most part they will realize it's nothing big and will continue on playing instead of whining.
With more serious issues, lets say you just found out your 4 year old has to go in for another stomach surgery, it's not something you want to hear but it does not help anybody for you to get all worked up.
You need to bring it into perspective, understand it's a bump in the road and that your child will be better for it, although it may not feel like it right now.
If you start questioning the doctor in front of your child and talking about how long it's going to take to recover and all of the different risks, you are only going to make it more difficult for your child.
At four year of age your child will not understand a lot about it. Do not cause them anxiety by telling them too soon...a few days before is plenty of time because surprising them with it will scare them more.
Do not give them the scary details. Don't lie to them but only tell them what they need to know and keep it positive. Tell them about getting to have ice-cream afterwards...how it's going to make them feel better when they are healed...a special 'surprise' they will be getting...do they want to bring their favorite slippers?...how about some special story books to read.
You need to make sure you focus them on things that make them happy. Do not focus on the scary stuff...getting needles, taking medicine, getting cut, stomach pain, no eating for two or three days...etc.
Be composed when you do tell them. Don't let them see you get upset and be careful what you are saying to people when they are in sight. You don't need them hearing your 'worries' when confiding in a friend...very tough to undo that.
They need to trust you and know that you are not lying to them 'for the moment' but that you are only telling them what they need to hear.
If they ask you if it's going to hurt you need to tell her yes...BUT....answer the questions and them take the focus to something positive. It will hurt but the doctor is going to give you medicine to make you feel better and you will probably get stickers for being so brave...
that sort of thing...
The main point being that YOU need to keep calm and make sure things stay in perspective. Of course you will have your worries but you need to make sure you deal with them 'properly?'
Make sure your child is not around and that you are not blowing things out of proportions. Try not to look at the 'whatifs'...just the facts. What is being done and why...look for the positives in it.
I know that is very difficult when it's your little one we are talking about but believe me when I say the best thing for everybody is accept it, deal with it and move forward...minus the drama if possible.
Keep smiling and looking for the positive...